Letting go of all or nothing

It’s amazing the perspective you gain when you get older. At least that’s one positive thing about getting older! I have found that I have totally changed my view of the world from all or nothing to shades in between. I suppose the this all or nothing was necessary while I was attending a very challenging graduate school program and while I was climbing the corporate ladder. This isn’t the case any more.

This point was brought home to me with my exercise. I used to think that if I wasn’t exercising intensely and gasping for air, then it didn’t count as exercise. Sure, it’s great to challenge oneself, but not all the time. Intellectually I knew that rest days and easier days were good for me, but I never enjoyed them. That is until recently. I think it has something to do with why I exercise. It’s not to look good; it’s to be healthy, strong and happy. Surprisingly, a walking routine, tai chi or yoga make me feel strong, healthy and happy! I look forward to my rest days now. After my workouts, I have lots of energy for the rest of the day, instead of being tired and hungry.

So my lesson learned from all of this:

1. It’s not all or nothing.

It can be something in between.

2. Constantly re-examine why you are doing something.

Your reasons and your goals may have changed. Thus, so should your actions.

3. Be in the moment.

I have to keep reminding myself of this one, since I tend to live in the future. I’m always thinking of what I have to do next. I need to stop, take a deep breath and focus on the present moment.

Black and white swan photo is courtesy of Pterjan’s Flickr Photostream, under Creative Commons Licensing.