In my younger days, I was fearless. I went from a small suburban town to living in New York City and I loved every minute of it. Something happened though as I got older. I can’t say it’s because I got wiser; it seems I lost part of my self. The good news is I’m getting it back. A recent experience really brought this home for me.
About 10 years ago I worked for a start up in Boston. I have to say it was one of my favorite jobs. Unfortunately, the company went bankrupt and suddenly closed its doors. This company did have a retirement plan and I contributed the maximum to it. Once the company shut down, I meant to transfer my money but didn’t get around to it.
As the years went by, I kept thinking about this. By this time, I was afraid to call and inquire about my account. I was afraid that the company had taken the money. I know that this is against the law, but fear kept me from finding out.
Well, a few days ago I got a letter from the Plan Recordkeeper saying that the plan is terminating and I need to transfer my money. Ah, talk about heaven sent! I immediately called the number listed in the letter and initiated the transfer process. Further good news, the value of my account had doubled!
I had two choices in thinking about this experience. I could have beaten myself up and felt really guilty that I had done nothing about it for ten years. I could tell myself that it was stupid to be afraid to find out what happened to my money.
Instead, I chose to view this as a great learning experience. Yes, I was afraid. But, the end result was a good one. It taught me to be less afraid. Or, at least to face my fear and do it anyway.
This new perspective will do me good as I embark on the next stage of my career.
What about you? How do you face your fears?
Photo is courtesy of James Diggans’ Flickr photostream, under Creative Commons Licensing.
Professor VJ Duke
July 17, 2013
Neat story. The account doubled–from waiting?
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Nancy Loderick
July 17, 2013
Hey Professor,
Call it the power of compounding interest. I think if I had been paying more attention to the account, it might have grown even more. Who knows?
Nancy
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Professor VJ Duke
July 17, 2013
I see.
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wakeupyourluck
July 17, 2013
If I discover something is worrying me or I’m afraid of something, then if possible, I just go ahead and confront it/do it. It takes away its power!
The things I actually have most trouble with are daft little things like spiders in my bedroom. Yet I managed to deal with one all by myself yesterday, so I was pleased!
– Lauren
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Nancy Loderick
July 17, 2013
Hi Lauren,
Thanks for sharing how you face your fear.
As for spiders, I don’t think I would have been as brave as you were. You go girl! 🙂
Nancy
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DwayneBaptist
July 17, 2013
Hi Nancy,
I tried to reblog your post today, but it didn’t work from my iPad for some reason. Sooo, I wrote a short post about your post, which will be on Leaderclip tomorrow (7/18/13). I really enjoy stories of victory and I especially appreciated your insight about not beating yourself up when you finally face a fear.
always,
db
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Nancy Loderick
July 18, 2013
Hi Dwayne,
Thanks so much for reblogging my post. I hope that it helps others to face their fears. And, more importantly to not beat themselves up if things don’t turn out quite how they expect.
Nancy
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MikeW
July 17, 2013
Nancy, sound, relevant topic selection for so many today.
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Nancy Loderick
July 18, 2013
Hi Mike,
I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I try to write about things in my life that are relevant to a lot of other people too.
Nancy
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Our Life In 3D
July 18, 2013
Its like those difficult conversations we need to have with an employee. We put it off and nothing gets better or fixed. That’s one of my toughest fears, ‘difficult conversations.’ I would add, “don’t mess with my money!”. I would have rolled it over to another 401K or IRA before the accountant left the building.
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Nancy Loderick
July 18, 2013
Hi,
Difficult employee discussions are tough, I used to dread those too.
Thinking back on my whole experience with this money, I should have rolled it over immediately. I had all the paperwork filled out, but at the time, the markets were down and my account was worth much less than what I had put into it. I told myself I would wait a year and then transfer the money. Well, time went by and I sort of forgot about it.
Nancy
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Our Life In 3D
July 18, 2013
It would have been a great time to roll it into a Roth IRA. You would pay less in taxes to transfer to a Roth, with a lower value, and then when the money grew again it would be tax free earnings this time. I did that back around 2003 with one of minewhen it had sunk low. The trick is to get it to grow then. 🙂
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Nancy Loderick
July 18, 2013
Hi,
Thanks for the info. 🙂
Nancy
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Our Life In 3D
July 18, 2013
Sorry….I’m a financial nerd. I do go on sometimes
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Nancy Loderick
July 18, 2013
Hi,
No need to apologize. I love learning new things.
Nancy
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pflead73
July 20, 2013
There is only one way to overcome your fear- Face it!
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Nancy Loderick
July 21, 2013
Hi,
You are so right about that!
Nancy
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rafaelpradov
July 22, 2013
I think your fear became prudence, and finally it gave you a very lucky day. Congratulations!
Cheers, 😉
Rafael
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Nancy Loderick
July 23, 2013
Hi Rafael,
What a great way to look at this experience! I love your description of fear becoming prudence. 🙂
Regards,
Nancy
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rafaelpradov
July 23, 2013
😀
Have a nice day!,
Rafael
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Kendall F. Person, thepublicblogger
July 31, 2013
Nancy – Thank you for this forum and this question. I face my fears by not thinking about them. Just thinking about my mission, my vision and my goals. Many of my fears are barriers to making forward progress. I stay positive. I read positive posts and poems and quotes and listen to inspiring people. Like you and the people you have in your community. Thank you again for demonstrating that we all have fears and that we face them every day. You are appreciated.
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Nancy Loderick
July 31, 2013
Hi Kendall,
Thanks for sharing how you face your fear. I love the idea of listening to inspiring people.
You are so sweet to say that I am appreciated. It made me day. 🙂
Nancy
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Kendall F. Person, thepublicblogger
July 31, 2013
Then i returned the favor.
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